‘Why do you hate her, Sumi?’
My new bride kept silent.
‘Did she abuse you in any way?’
She looked down.
‘What IS the problem with your mum?’
A tear drop rolled off her beautiful kohl-lined eyes.
‘Problem is…
Same spirit, same zest, same frustrations…
I see myself in her.
And I cannot stand it!’
Writer-z-block 
44 replies on “Un-forgiven (55-er)”
not able to understand 😦 😦
Oh, I will have to edit this or maybe add a footnote, to make it clear. Thanks, Kanagu 🙂
So she sees herself becoming the very person she hated? A terrible mother, perhaps? A selfish spouse?
Quirky Indian
Bang on, Quirky!
And, and, a thin veil IS necessary between people. You know each other too well…that’s a danger sign!
perhaps she didnt want the same frustrations ?? not sure about this one !
Very correct, Hitchy. In her mother, she sees what she does NOT want to become, but realises she is turning into that, and quite helplessly too.
(By the way, even I’m not too clear on what I wanted to express, but this was a ‘flash-fictional’ outcome of a conversation with a friend)
I got inspired.. made two raw ones.. then deleted them ! ugh !
Post them na .. they will turn ripe 😉
What is this Ripe and Raw ones? You mean 55-ers? Post them, Hitch! We are all here to read and tear it apart 😉 He he! No, seriously, do post. Waiting to read.
Ahh .. subtle! Its so difficult to be in such a situation me feels!
Hats off that u even managed to put it in words Pal.
Oh Swaram, it was a very difficult one, and I am sure I haven’t managed to convey as much as I wanted to, if I was ever clear of it in the first place. But thanks 🙂
Pal, like ur header 🙂
Hee hee, that was R’s bday cake 🙂 The kids started picking out the gems before we could blow out the candles!
Moral of the story : Anything thats got to do with wedding will lead only to tears, however different the situation is !! 😀 😀 😀 😀
ROFL, Vimmu. Late aa realise pannitiyey!!
Btw, that was supposedly a serious post. Thanks to you, I ended laughing!!
This worked very well, Pal 🙂
Keep writing
Did it, really, Shankari? Thank you so much!
Good one. Unusual though. Keep them coming…
btw… always wondered re: the title/header of your blog. Why is it called “Crocodile’s tales”… ??? Aren’t they more closely associated with the salty stream… flowing from the eyes… ???
This is precisely the logic behind ‘Like poles repel each other’ !!!
Much as we vow not to turn into our parents as we grow up (especially in our teens) a lot of the time we unconsciously end up thinking and acting the way they did! You managed to squeeze all of that into 55 words. Great going, Pal !
Awesome and so true. We hate not the other person – but our own imperfections that we see magnified in them, we recognize them and it is intolerable
True!! One sees this all the time in close relationships! But I though this was more common amongst mothers…
Me: You’re right. It certainly is (between women, I mean), isn’t it? I wonder how men manage to remain cool. I mean, they are not quite emotional as women, and do not get bogged down by the intricacies of self and relationships.
Saw a lot of your comments in the spam queue!! GOK how that happened!
Its difficult to accept the changes which we undergo !!!!
Couldnt understand so much, when I read the 55-er !!! But the comments explained it all !!!! 🙂
@ Rosh – Thank you. Unusual indeed, and a spur of the moment thingy. As for the title, he he, that’s a story in itself 🙂
@ Deeps – Very true!!
@ Dreamer – Seeing you after a long time. Was it the pudding ? 😉 😉 And yes, we do turn into our parents, don’t we? And its an almost impossible task to undo it!
@ Ritu – Thank you! I love your explanation. Sad that I wasn’t able to write it that well!!
And I think, we believe that we are better persons than we actually are. So when we see the bare truth, it angers us.
@ Uma – Thank you. The comments are invaluable, aren’t they? Esp. on this one. Had a tough time with this 55-er. Thank you, people, for helping out!!
I do not want to see me in her
or for that matter her in me
though outwardly there is nothing we share
there are begining of traces that eyes cant see.
Like many others me too read, re-read , read comments then re-read the post then understood 😀 …. way above me 🙂 …..
Sad…
But I suppose not all mums are storybook mums, and the realization that you are turning out just like her can hit home, sad, again….
Good one Pallu…
The fact is she recognised the “signs” before hadn helps, don’t you think?
Now, maybe she can help herself and work on the signs
Me likes 🙂
Isin’t this so true for all of us sometimes? When you suddenly turn around and realise that your more like your mother than you ever thought you’d be and despite all your promises tht you won’t be her?
@ PRG: ‘..Traces that eyes can’t see…’ – beautiful!
@ Dmanji: LOL, shows how badly I wrote this one!!
@ Ganga: Exactly!
@ Pixie: Tough Ques.! Answer is both Yes and No. Yes, because one is conscious of what not to do. No, because one still does it because it is inherent!
@ Supps: True for all women, I guess, surprisingly the men didn’t quite seem to agree 😉
“As for the title, he he, that’s a story in itself”
Hmmm. Sounds intriguing. Why not a post on this… ???
Really want to know such boring stuff, maybe will do one day 🙂
Often we unconsciously become what our parents are even if we don’t want to…Genes, maybe? Like for example, children of abusers often end up abusing themselves despite not wanting to…
Oh i totally loved this!
Hey! Good story. 🙂
Is it based on reality??
Good one, Pallu.
@ Bones: Very true, no matter how much we try, some things cannot be changed.
@ Miss M: Thank you! Interesting, how only the women bloggers could empathise with this one 😉
@ Badz: Thank you, and I believe all fiction is based on reality. Someone’s reality!!
@ Soli: Thanks, buddy. Missed you!!
Sad. And one does see this in real life Pal 😦
I posted another comment – it disappeared!
Me: Yes! And what surprised me most, was the fact, that most of the people I interact with think the same way 🙂 I guess if you ask the previous generation, they would also say the same about their parents (mums)!
Scary, isn’t not! Unconsciously turning into somebody u don’t ever want to be… ooops… But such is life, I guess… when u live together for so long, it just rubs on u
U said a lot in those many words Pal… Good going
First timer here, will be back to read more
:))
Me: Thank you, Pinash 🙂 Bang on. I too think the influences are too strong, to not rub off onto you, and though you realise it, there’s nothing you can do. Except hate with a vengeance. But whom do you hate? Yourself or the alter ego?
Btw, yours is an interesting blog name!
One of the most gratifying aspects of blogging is getting new readers/friends, so welcome to the club 🙂 Will hope right over to your page now.
this was awesome..one of the best 55er i have read recently
Thank you SOOO MUCH, Ani!
This is so realistic. Happens…
WOW interesting read….most of us do end up in some ways like our parents…
we observe them as we grow up..and pick up on subtle hints and imbibe them…
@ LP: Thank you.. your post reminded me of this, though yours was so much more positive in nature 🙂