Chup, bad girl

****** ‘Bad uncle…’ the child whispers, shifting uneasily. Mother glances at Neighbour – kind and respectable. No, he wouldn’t!! She nudges her 6-year old irritably, ‘Chup*… Bad girl!‘ ****** (An attempt to tell a story in Haiku form) Innumerable cases of child abuse are not stopped simply because we do not believe our children enough. We brush their fears aside, thinking they are baseless. They aren’t. They never are. If a child feels that there is ‘something wrong’ or ‘something bad’ – a touch, a comment, or even a look…  that just makes him/her feel uncomfortable, but is unable to express it, it is … Continue reading Chup, bad girl

Satyameva Jayate or SMS Jayate?

Picture this scene – A picture-perfect dutiful daughter-in-law decked in all her finery, casting pensive looks, while trying to outwit her wicked mother-in-law and bhabi-sa’s plots to entangle her in controversy. Add to it a jilted lover, a current husband (usually categorically abusive or passive and lovey-dovey!) and a motley collection of uncles/aunties, not to forget the endless fights and tears – Voila! You have an Indian television soap that is bound to rake in TRPs and some moolah for the next couple of years. Now what hits Indian television with a breath of fresh air, nay, a powerful gust of … Continue reading Satyameva Jayate or SMS Jayate?

Good boys don’t watch porn!

So the last couple of days have been eventful! India won against Sri Lanka. Voting began in Uttar Pradesh. And three ministers from Karnataka resigned, amidst accusations of watching pornography during when assembly was in full swing! TV news channels aired footage of the ministers Laxman Savadi (Minister for co-operation),  CC Patil, (Minister for women and children), and Krishna Palemar (Minister for ports) using a mobile phone to watch a porn clip. Excerpt from Mumbai Mirror: ‘The two ministers, who were sitting next to each other, had no inkling that television cameramen had taken position in the gallery right above … Continue reading Good boys don’t watch porn!

Do fashionable girls invite rape?

Do fashionable girls invite rape? IHM has written extensively about this topic, and there really isn’t much more than I can add. However, here are my two cents. —– In what seemed to be a re-enactment of the origins of the Slut Walk, Andhra Pradesh top cop Dinesh Reddy recently made a statement that ‘women who wear fashionable clothes provoke men, leading to increase in rape cases’. He indicated that modern and fashionable women are more prone to rape, BECAUSE of their inappropriate dressing. While many people were outraged, many others have applauded him on his courage!! I lived in … Continue reading Do fashionable girls invite rape?

Abortion – Cruel or Kind?

At a recent party, the conversation veered rapidly from brandy and mulled wine to beauty and appearances. Amidst the general cheerful banter, I overheard a small group of people talking about children with severe disabilities and how parents of such children cope with life. One guest happened to ask – ‘if parents had prior knowledge about a child’s mental disorder before it is born, then wouldn’t it be better to simply abort the pregnancy rather than face a lifetime of suffering?’ My first instinct was: If abortions based on children’s disability were to become common, then we tend to become … Continue reading Abortion – Cruel or Kind?

Reverend Father

The Principal of a boys only school. He was jovial, old and respectable. The boys loved him. The parents respected him immensely. He was after all, ‘Reverend Father’. He was kind to the boys, and insisted on meeting the friends and relatives of the boys. So every fun-fair day, or ‘fancy fete’ day, as it was called in those times, the boys would take their sisters and their friends to show them around the school. Rev. Father would call them into his room. Brightly-lit, spacious room, the shelves respectably lined with thick volumes. The children loved the room. It was, … Continue reading Reverend Father

What a wonderful life – Aruna Shanbaug

[Thank you, DNA India, for mentioning this blog post at this page here] and thank you, Mon, for pointing it out, else I wouldn’t have known!   Every time I read this: ‘He (Sohanlal Bhartha Walmiki) choked her with a dog chain and sodomized her. The asphyxiation cut off oxygen supply to her brain resulting in brain stem contusion injury and cervical cord injury apart from leaving her cortically blind‘ ..I feel nauseous. Rape is an indescribable violation of both BODY AND SPIRIT. Being so brutally attacked, and left to die, is living hell. PLEASE, DO READ THIS VERY STRONG POST. The tears … Continue reading What a wonderful life – Aruna Shanbaug