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Thought and Reason

Everyone needs a grandparent!

There’s no questioning it. Everyone needs a bit of pampering. A little love, much adoration 🙂 and even some unquestioned ‘authority’ that leads them to believe ‘they are the boss’. Who better for this role, than a grandparent?

We live miles (and miles!) away from home, but do head back once or twice a year. The bond between child and grandparent is simply beautiful. It does not matter that they have a 60-year-gap between them. It also doesn’t matter that they don’t always understand each other’s accent! Neither does it makes a difference whether they are communicating with each other or simply sitting in amiable silence, watching some crappy TV program.

Kids who receive absolute adoration from the grandparents are ‘blessed’ if you ask me! I think the admiration builds much confidence in them, and it lasts a lifetime. I remember reading these lines somewhere, sometime (but even Google isn’t able to retrieve it for me!): ‘if you have a heard a river in your childhood, it is likely that you will hear it all your life’. That’s the way it is when one is blessed with loving grandparents. I have had the fortune of having one adoring grandmum 🙂 Just thinking of her makes warms the cockles of my heart. Senility will catch up one day,and perhaps turn her into a nit-picking and grumpy lady 🙂 (I’m nearly there myself ;-)) but nevertheless, my love for her is just as unconditional as hers for me 🙂

Why is it that kids are relatively de-stressed with the grandparents around, as compared to the parents? Do we push them too much? Do we want them to be ‘perfect’ (despite not managing it ourselves?!) Or do we use their behaviour as a benchmark of our success as a parent?! Whatever be the reason, in general grandparents seem to share a better rapport with kids than do the parents. Their relationship is quite stress-free, with not much expectation or conditions from either side!

Let me also confess that I am a little envious of people who can leave the kids at the grandparents’ every now and then! Bringing up a child is quite a challenge. I would go so far as to say managing a career is easier than bringing up a child. Yes, every job is difficult, but the task of looking after a child beats them hands down! So if we have grandparents to sneak in and take the pressure off, that, is sheer heaven 🙂

Now that’s another fact that grandparents don’t always want to ‘look after’ the kids as their previous generations did! They enjoy doing this ‘part time’ 😉 but not as a full-time job, and I think they are right! Afterall, they have lived their entire life working really hard to bring us up and provide everything we needed! It ain’t quite fair to expect them to become full-time baby-sitters at this age. I wish more people realised it!! Having grandparents is a luxury that not many can afford!! So the ones that do, add this to your blessings 🙂 🙂

So here’s to all grandparents. No matter how loving/bitchy they are, or how generous/stingy they choose to be. And certainly, irrespective of whether they ‘look after’ our kids or ‘not’. Just ‘being there’ and ‘supporting our children’ is a blessing 🙂 whether we accept it or not.

Rant Warning:

On a related note, I find it annoying when people say going to India once or twice a year ‘is very lucky’.

Honestly, it is a choice! One chooses to either save money, buy property/jewellery/gadgets/etc and go on exotic holidays around the globe! Or one chooses to save every penny and travel 5000 miles to indulge one’s self in the familiar sights, sounds (read, cacophony!) and smells (er, anyone heard of Onyx?) of the home town. Now that calls for another post altogether!!

So all those lovely folks who say this to me again .. er.. please, please don’t!! Danke 🙂

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Tag you’re it!

I’ve been bitten by the ‘Tag You’re It’ bug too!! Kind courtesy: The one and only Bhai of blogworld. Our dear Hitchy!

The Rules:

1. You must post the rules!
2. Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post and then create eleven new questions to ask the people you’ve tagged.
3. Tag eleven people and link to them on your post.
4. Let them know you’ve tagged them.

Here are the questions Hitchy asked, with my answers embedded.

1.) If you could have any superpower, what would it be ? Imagine !
>> To make anyone slim OR fat! I’d round up all the mean folks and make them super-fat, so they are grounded for life. (Er, today happens to be my Mean-Avatar day!!) I’d also grant nice people with a great figure (if they so wish it!). So be in my good books, people!

2.) What was your favorite childhood television program?

>> Spiderman and He-Man.. they both give me a feeling of ‘Sunday’ 🙂 day of rest and fun!

3.) Have / had any celebrity crushes ?
>> Hritik Roshan, who else!!!

4.) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?
>> At the moment it would be India, cos I’ve not been there for almost 6 months!! Yeah, I’m homesick.

5.) Name 1 thing you miss about being a child.
>> A calorie-free life. Not that I ate sensibly then, I was blissfully ignorant of words like Carbs, Monosaturated fat, blah blah blah.

6.) Name the one comic/book character that you loved the most and why ?
>> Er…. Suppandi 🙂

7.) What is the one thing that you are dying to try but haven’t had a chance to do so yet ?
>> After watching ZNMD, I think I might want to try sky-diving sometime, provided my BFFs join me!

8.) Do you have a role model – someone you want to emulate? Whom do you admire the most?
>> Chetan Bhagat.. who else can relentlessly dish out so much crap and still manage to become a best-seller?!!

9.) What do others make of you ?
>> (You mean, on my non-bitchy days, right?) That I’m very caring and pleasant.

10.) Have you ever gotten into a fight or punched someone ?
>> Nah! I’m too nice (read: timid) for that! But there are a lot of people I’d like to punch some day!

11.) For Girls – If you woke up tomorrow to find out you are Brad Pitt, what would be the first thing you’d say upon looking in the mirror !
>> Go, look for Writerzblock and take her out on a lovely date to Paris 😉

Okay, my job’s done. Now its your turn!!!

These are the lovely folks I’m tagging:

1. Ashwathy
2. Urmi
3. Snowleopard
4. Vaish
5. Aaroo
6. Reema
7. Uma
8. LG
9. Shilpa
10. Bikram 
11. Mon

And here are your Eleven questions:

1. If you were crowned ‘Ms/Mr/Mrs/etc’ World, how would you start your ‘thank you’ speech?

2. If you had to turn yourself into a cartoon character, who/what would you choose?

3. What would be your response to a troll comment like ‘Your blog is utter crap!‘?

4. If you found a bag of cash (huge cash), what would you do? Take it to the police station, keep it for yourself, or any other option?

5. Describe your first poo/wee accident as a child. Ha ha ha!:wicked: If you don’t remember, then just invent one!

6. If someone pays you a million dollars to watch a scary horror film, sitting ALONE in a graveyard at midnight, would you do it?

7. What is your one piece of advice to Rahul Baba (Gandhi)?

8. If you could banish the Bacchhan parivaar, where would you send them?

9. What is your proudest moment?

10. What is your most romantic moment?

11. And finally (phew), if you had a time machine, which year would you transport yourself to, and why?

(Needless to say, if anyone wants to willingly become a bali-ka-bakra and take up this tag, please do so!! The more the merrier!!)

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Incidents

On polling, (not) begging and more

BlogJunta is holding Indian Blogosphere polls, across several categories. What was interesting was that the blogs that have been shortlisted are mostly of good quality. And many of these, I haven’t had the opportunity to read until now. So, I am looking forward to enjoying these blogs going forward.

I’m very grateful to BlogJunta for having shortlisted my blog in the Fiction category. Really grateful. Such recognition is really very encouraging.

What I ‘dare’ to call 😉 my ‘collection’ of short stories can be found at this link. My favourite 55-ers are here.

After experiencing recent blogging contests in Blogosphere, I am rather disillusioned by the way most polls work. Unfortunately, having a large friends-network in Blogosphere often scores over true writing potential.

This time, I’m not campaigning for my own blog. I hope you will vote for the blog that deserves to win.

I hope you will use your wise judgement and NOT vote for someone only because he/she is your friend, or a friend’s friend, someone who is just popular.. or perhaps someone who simply begs well!!

For once, may only the best blogs win.

To vote, kindly head over to the Facebook poll page by clicking this link.

🙂

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Thought and Reason

Of Faking News, Rahul Baba, Dalits and Gays..

I have been a huge fan of Faking News since its inception. But this latest post was in poor taste. And the jokes that readers cracked on this were deplorable.

This is the post I am referring to:

Faking News:

Rahul Gandhi turns 40 today. Let’s celebrateRahul Gandhi will turn _______ next year
option 1:41
option 2:Prime Minister
option 3:Dalit
option 4:FN Reporter
option 5:Papa

Now, this is actually quite funny 🙂 As of now, 187 people ‘Like’ this and there are 73 comments!

Unfortunately, most of the comments were in such poor taste. Can you guess what most of the comments are?

Rahul Gandhi is ‘gay’, turns ‘Dalit’, ‘becomes Papa of a Dalit’… one guy even said ‘will be assasinated’. Another said ‘a kick out of this country’.

Is any of that even remotely funny?

1) Being Gay

For one, how does it change things if Rahul Gandhi IS indeed gay?!! (Other than the fact that many young girls would be broken-hearted 😉 )

We talk of being educated and broad-minded, and then we promptly try to ‘insult’ someone by ‘calling him gay’! Being ‘gay’ is not abnormal. It is simply, an alternate state of normalcy! (Thanks to my friend Megha, who worded that for me 🙂 ) Our notions of love and rules are etched so deep in our minds, that anything beyond unwritten societal norms is disparaged and degraded. And this is what I had mentioned in my earlier post too.

I don’t think the people who call Rahul Gandhi ‘gay’ have anything against him ‘actually being gay’. I think these people just believe ‘gay’ is a ‘swear word’. And that is what irks me. If this is the mindset of the average educated middle class bloke, then GOD SAVE OUR COUNTRY.

2) Courting Dalits

Second, so what if Rahul ‘baba’ is courting Dalits? Isn’t every other politician attempting to do the same? Or something similar? If its not Dalits, its some other Minority community. I am confused about why this is so ‘unusually’ wrong.

Indian Politics, as we know, is a thriving business. And this business has its foundations on ‘Vote banks’. Now either we believe that there are indeed ‘good and honest’ politicians who get their votes because of their noble deeds. Or we accept the fact that politicians survive because of the vote bank. Either way, every politician courts the ‘aam junta’ in some way or the other.

3) ‘Papa’

Now, I know this is the ‘Fathers Day’ weekend. But really! This was in deplorable taste.

Some people have actually answered ‘papa of dalit’. I found this simply disgusting. Again, this is a clear reflection on the commentator, rather than on the person he is referring to. To me, it shows that he has sex on his mind. And perversion too.

Now, if I had to vote for a PM and my choices were ‘Dalit-courting-Rahul-Gandhi’ OR ‘sex-obsessed-commentator’, I think I will actually go for Option 1.

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Now now, I am not a ‘fan’ of Rahul Gandhi. (Though, he looks chocolatey cute 😉 *drools* )

IMHO, he does not seem capable enough to be PM, atleast so soon. I remmeber reading on another blog, quite some time back, of how the blogger actually met Rahul Gandhi, and the latter just seemed so over-whelmed, had no idea of how to handle the issue and merely deflected it, more often than not, to the wrong department!!

But my point here is, if we believe Rahul Gandhi is unfit, then call the bloke ‘inefficient, unwise, immature.. whatever suits’ but certainly not ‘gay’, ‘dalit’ or ‘papa of dalit’. Now, THAT is just in very bad taste.

And yes, if it came to it, I will choose Option 2 – Rahul becomes PM. If we believe that all politicians are corrupt and useless puppets in any case, then why not give a chance to someone who seems educated and is atleast presentable!!

I guess a lot of people who read Faking News are ‘inspired’ to be funny too. Sadly, such jokes sometimes go haywire.