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Something here and there

Part I: Inspired by Vimmu’s ‘Once Upon a Time’ series

So I’ve been out of sight for the last two weeks. We had been wanting to see Cairo for almost seven years, and we finally made it! We spent the week before last on a beautiful trip to Egypt. Landed at Cairo on a Sat early morning, and our first stop was the magnificent Pyramids of Giza, and the even more majestic Sphinx.

We spent the next day in Alexandria. Our guide misguided us though! While he claimed it was a ‘day trip to Alex’, we spent almost the entire day travelling by car, and a miserably short One hour in Alex. The Catacombs were intriguiging (the Brat especially loved venturing underground!) , Pompeii’s Pillar was beautiful, and the Gardens were vast. The strawberry milkshake at McDonalds was awesome 😉

We then set sail 🙂 Well, it isn’t as grand as I make it sound. Our ‘Nile cruise’ was on a dusty old ship (with an enchanting name: Sheherazade) that sailed very slowly at night, taking us from Luxor to Edfu, and Aswan. And every stop we got to visit beatiful temples, each steeped in mythology!! Luckily, this time we had a very knowledgeable guide, who (though he insisted we start the tour at 7 AM every day) took a lot of effort to make us understand a bit of Egyptian mythology and culture.

He proved he was a ‘guide’ when he insisted we spend adequate time ‘shopping in the nominated centre’, and once we had bought a couple of souvenirs, he dashed back into the shop (rather too obviously!) to collect his share! 😦

The Nile Cruise was a very restful experience. There wasn’t Internet to distract or TV to occupy, therefore only Nature to enjoy!

We concluded our trip by returning to Cairo, just for a day. We saw the beautiful Mohamed Ali mosque at the Citadel. We made the Brat believe that was the palace of Aladin/Jasmine and that the King of Thieves was waiting to capture any naughty children. So that made him sit quiet 🙂 while we admired the beautiful ceiling/roof of the mosque.

Our trip culminated in the Khan-e-elili bazaar. A shopper’s delight! But then, I was roaming the streets with three surly men (2 guides and my husband), and one surly buy (the Brat, ofcourse), so I had no choice but to restrain the Shopaholic in me 😦 Like I said earlier (on FB), ‘Moral of the story: Do not go shopping with men’!)

And, back to base now, we are still trying to re-adjust to the cold weather. Its been raining, very unlike Spring! But the coming week, is expected to be better, in comparison!

Part II: Inspired by Pragya’s ‘Nothing’ series

Speaking of ‘comparisons’, I am so baffled when I see other mothers.. girls who are hardly 25, being so fiercely competitive about our children. I mean, our kids are only 2 and 3 years old. And they already make comparisons, start judging kids/behaviours/parenting. I have only just started teaching the Alphabet to my child, when someone I met recently started when her child was just 14 months or so. And she pointedly said it to me, and kept prodding me to find out ‘what my child is doing currently’.

I am afraid of such people. I want children to be children. I don’t want a genius in my son. And I certainly don’t want a bookworm. All I want is for him to remain enthusiastic, happy and gung-ho. I am probably complacent… ignorant… even stupid!

I know that everything is a rat-race. I know my child would have to participate too. Just, not now.. not so soon!!

Cheerio, people. Enjoy your long weekend. We stayed indoors today, and Sky TV betrayed us by not sending a signal! So we had our revenge by watching two movies – this one for the fourth time! and this for the first – in a row 🙂 and hope to see more tomorrow.

Ta!!

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Incidents MommySpeak

When time stopped…

It was a cold wintry night.

Mummy was exhausted, but Sonny was at the peak of energy! Mommy was left with no choice. Cleaning, dishwasher, laundry, dinner…it was all done. She even managed to pack in a bedtime story. When she finally had a minute to spare, she glanced at the clock. 8:40 pm. ‘Woohooooo’ , she yelped with joy! Super-efficient, aren’t I? She smiled gleefully.

So she settled down with a nice book and a mug of warm milk. The perfect way to spend the evening! Half-way through the book, she looked up again.

The clock beamed back at her. 8:40 pm.

Mummy jumped out of her skin, and checked the computer. 12:40 am.

The end (Of book-reading and internet-surfing).

Good night.

🙄

[P.s: As you have smartly guessed, this is a non-post. I need to find a battery to get this da*n clock working now!]

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Incidents MommySpeak Thought and Reason

Beware of Kids??

‘Beware of Dogs’ is a common signboard in India. This piece of news however, quite shocked me. And not because of the nature of crime per se. But the sheer age of the perpretators. How can boys of age 10 be so violent? What sort of upbringing do they have? In my opinion, its the parents of the boy who need to be punished, more severely than the children themselves! Reports say they were used to watching violence on TV.

Coming to think of it, every programme on every channel these days is inundated with violence.

Take a look at this seemingly innocuous Chota Bheem serial, which is very popular in India. Sonny has been watching this for nearly two weeks now, and you can imagine, why he has suddenly started ‘punching’ us!

Do you notice the amount of violence they are teaching little kids? What does a child know? Good.. bad.. they are all the same. The child only sees the ‘HERO’, Chota Bheem, bashing up another guy, and feeling very proud about it. Little does the child realise that the guy being hit is a ‘villain’ of sorts. So, what is it, that Chota Bheem is teaching children? Go, Bash Em Up!!

Or, this Ben 10 trailer.

The colours, the action… doesn’t it all simply reverberate with violence?!!

It is no wonder, then, that children these days are getting more aggressive and violent, than ever before. This is probably a bit of a lecture… ‘free advice’ if you insist.. but as parents, I think these are some small steps we can take, to make our children better people:

* Controlled TV programmes – I know of mommies who do not allow kids to watch TV at all. I think that’s quite extreme, because TV does teach a lot. Like the Playhouse Disney channels for example. So we could try to ensure our children only watch pleasant cartoons, and nothing violent.

* A vent for energy – Energy not channelised in the proper manner will most certainly cause problems for both the child and the parent. So, go out and kick that ball with your child. Or just take a walk down the road. Or go swimming, or something, that will physically tire out both of you, in a positive manner!

* Reinforce positive behaviour – Let’s practise basic manners (saying our please and thank you’s) and openly appreciate any positive behaviour in our children, so they KNOW that behaving well makes us all happy!

[Okay…End of serious post]

By the way, Sonny has just joined pre-school, and seems to have had his First Crush already!! A certain ‘Miss Vicky’ is the lucky girl 😉 and I can see stars in his eyes every time he mentions her name 😉

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55-er Short story

The second-born [flash fiction]

Green-masked faces crowded around…’Push harder!!!’

The ugly yellow lizard watched, unblinking.

You’ll understand..’ she murmured.

..my little girl.. fair.. pretty.. just like Sister..’

‘Focus!’

‘And this second?!’

‘PUSH!’

‘…What if… she’s .. you .. or me???
…Another lifetime.. of inferiority begins…’
[Blink]                                              ‘PUSSSSHHHH!!!!’
She gave in.
——
It was a boy.
She laughed.
She cried!
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Two minutes more…

When I was younger…I mean, way younger..like when I was a child, my Mum used to wake me up every morning for school. And my standard response would be ‘Five minutes more’. After the allotted Five Minutes, I would plead for ‘Just Two minutes more..’. Sometimes she used to oblige, but considering the fact that there were two of us lazy girls around to pack to school, you could say, she was not very happy about it!

Fast-forward two and a half decades, to this weekend.

He: Wayke up, its morning!

Me: Mmmmm…(rolling under the duvet to hide)

He: Look! Its morning! Wakey..wakey!

Me: Oh please…I’m sleepy.

He: Tries pulling my duvet off, and nuzzling his nose into my ear.

Me: Hey! Hmm… 🙂 (enjoying the warmth!)…let’s sleep a little longer, please!

He: No way! Time to go!

Me: (Half the sleep has vanished by now 🙄 wondering where we HAVE to GO on a cold Sunday morning): Where the hell do we have to go?

He: Its time to play! Look, there’s the clay and building blocks!

Me: Awww…Ok fine… (He flashes a huge grin 🙂 )… Just Two Minutes More…. 😯

He: Sigh! (Thinks: Such a lazy Amma I have! 😦  )

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55-er MommySpeak Short story

Un-forgiven (55-er)

‘Why do you hate her, Sumi?’

My new bride kept silent.

‘Did she abuse you in any way?’

She looked down.

‘What IS the problem with your mum?’

A tear drop rolled off her beautiful kohl-lined eyes.

‘Problem is…

Same spirit, same zest, same frustrations…

I see myself in her.

And I cannot stand it!’

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Mommy knows all!

The sun hadn’t risen this morning, and it was still dark at 7:30 am.

Sonny wakes up first, pulls me out of bed, and says

‘Please can you make it morning?’

 

🙂 🙂 🙂

 

(Btw, sweet as it sounds, all he meant was: ‘Switch on the da*n lights, you lazy b*m’)

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Why I think he’s a baby, and why he isn’t!

Today being the eve of my ‘baby’s’ third birthday, I decide to give him a nice magical movie evening!

So here we are, cuddled on the sofa, watching ‘Aladin and the King of Thieves’.

Me: ‘Baby?’

Baby: Silence

Me: ‘Are you hungry?’

Baby: More silence, mouth open, gaping at Aladin and Jasmine

Me (patience wearing out): ‘BABY! Hungry?’

Baby (finally): ‘But sorry, Amma, I’m watching Aladin.’

Me (gushing about my ‘baby’ talking so much!): ‘Oh shooo shweeeet!’

Baby (without blinking): ‘Is Aladin going to kiss the girl now?’

Me: ????****!!!!!???****

*** Happy Birthday, my dearest little boy! ***

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Mommy speak – Fussy eaters

Okay… most of you, my regular readers…are going to find this most boring! Still, I wrote it for an e-friend today, and wanted to post it here. You know, just in case some other Mommy needs it too.

So! This post for MOMMIES – who are struggling to deal with children who are fussy eaters. Here are a few tips that have worked for me and my child.

1- INTERESTING SHAPES
Eating is a task. A boring task, if you ask a child (well, most children, really). So try to make it an interesting activity for them. Nothing like a few shapes on the platter!! Examples:

a) Toast: Cut into strips and arrange it like a track or star or rectangle…you get the idea… something that your kid likes!
b) Chapati/Dosai: Again, make into numbers, alphabet, star-fish, eggs, snakes(!!), whatever.
c) Pasta: Try shaped pasta or tricolour pasta. Or serve it with a plastic fork, and see how your child enjoys eating by him/her-self.
d) Cheese: You could always roll a cheese-strip into a cylinder / cone, etc.

2- DISTRACTION
This works excellently most of the time. When I feed my kid, I either make him do some painting / puzzles / Aquadraw/ or resort to a favourite TV channel. Either way, it really helps, when the kid is focussed on doing SOMETHING rather than only eating.

3 – COLOURFUL FOOD
Definitely helps when the child sees lots of colours on the plate. For eg, if you are making rice, add some chopped carrot, beans and peas, to add colour.

4- INDEPENDENCE
Try eating along with your child, and use a spoon/fork each. I think kids feel grown-up, independent and happy too. You would be happy too, if you could ignore the mess that he/she is making around the table 😉

5- GET SET, READY, COUNT!!

While giving fruit (eg., orange), make it a fun counting game and hand out pieces of fruit while counting. That way, the kids learn numbers too.

As far as I know, the food also needs to be served at the right temperature, and not spicy either.

So that’s about it, really!

Mommy bloggers, do add your valuable tips.

And daddy bloggers, you could always be of help to the mommies, you know (not the ‘mommies you know’ but the ‘mommies, you know’ 😉 )

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Empty Nest – sight u in the distance!

A couple of weeks back, my 2.5yr old wanted to go cycling (though he doesn’t use the pedals but only walks it around!) and resisted every time I tried to hold on to the parent-handle.

Then I thought, may be he will learn only when I let go.

So I did.

And he didn’t learn.

He would steady himself at the tip of the slope (at the building’s garage). Then say Ready-Steady-Go, and GO. He would lift his two little feet off and bend down, to see himself racing down the slope. And he would whoop with joy!! He even fell twice, flat on his face.

None of that would have happened if I had held on to the handle. He wouldn’t have fallen. And he certainly wouldn’t have had so much fun.

So yeah, I think we do have to let go of our kids at some point of time. I just wish it came later… a long long way later and not when he is just 2.5 :-(:-) (Is that an appropriate smiley for a ‘mixed-reaction’ ?!!)

(Inspired by Dhanno Banno’s post).