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Mommy speak – Fussy eaters

Okay… most of you, my regular readers…are going to find this most boring! Still, I wrote it for an e-friend today, and wanted to post it here. You know, just in case some other Mommy needs it too.

So! This post for MOMMIES – who are struggling to deal with children who are fussy eaters. Here are a few tips that have worked for me and my child.

1- INTERESTING SHAPES
Eating is a task. A boring task, if you ask a child (well, most children, really). So try to make it an interesting activity for them. Nothing like a few shapes on the platter!! Examples:

a) Toast: Cut into strips and arrange it like a track or star or rectangle…you get the idea… something that your kid likes!
b) Chapati/Dosai: Again, make into numbers, alphabet, star-fish, eggs, snakes(!!), whatever.
c) Pasta: Try shaped pasta or tricolour pasta. Or serve it with a plastic fork, and see how your child enjoys eating by him/her-self.
d) Cheese: You could always roll a cheese-strip into a cylinder / cone, etc.

2- DISTRACTION
This works excellently most of the time. When I feed my kid, I either make him do some painting / puzzles / Aquadraw/ or resort to a favourite TV channel. Either way, it really helps, when the kid is focussed on doing SOMETHING rather than only eating.

3 – COLOURFUL FOOD
Definitely helps when the child sees lots of colours on the plate. For eg, if you are making rice, add some chopped carrot, beans and peas, to add colour.

4- INDEPENDENCE
Try eating along with your child, and use a spoon/fork each. I think kids feel grown-up, independent and happy too. You would be happy too, if you could ignore the mess that he/she is making around the table ;-)

5- GET SET, READY, COUNT!!

While giving fruit (eg., orange), make it a fun counting game and hand out pieces of fruit while counting. That way, the kids learn numbers too.

As far as I know, the food also needs to be served at the right temperature, and not spicy either.

So that’s about it, really!

Mommy bloggers, do add your valuable tips.

And daddy bloggers, you could always be of help to the mommies, you know (not the ‘mommies you know’ but the ‘mommies, you know’ ;-) )

TACKLING YOUR TODDLER

Tips from a part-time disaster also known as ‘Mum’

Do you really think you can tackle your toddler ? Forget it! You can’t, I can’t, nobody can!

So what do we poor parents do, to minimize the impact of taking our children out? Here are some tips.

1- Clothing overcomes loathing!
Make sure your child’s clothing is suitable. By suitable, I do not mean, just suitable for the occasion. Focus on ‘suitable to weather conditions’. In my early days as a Mum, my baby used to drive me crazy by crying incessantly on any outings! At first I thought he hated his pram. Then I thought he just wanted to stay indoors. I finally realised he was just feeling too cold for comfort, because his jacket wasn’t good enough. We got him a really good jacket (yes, its worth investing some money in that quarter!) and he has not cried ever since! Wait a minute, don’t get the wrong idea. I meant, he hasn’t cried for feeling cold or uncomfortable, since then. There have been other reasons though ;-) And if its really hot, allow the children to dress the way they like..even if it is to a bare minimum. Kids can be really cool, you know!

2- Food defines the mood!
My friends say this isn’t the right thing to do. But I still do it. Because it keeps my child happy. And that is a HUGE stress-buster for me, as it is for any parent. I always carry a mini-snack of my child’s favourite things – some raisins, juice/water, biscuits/crisps. Children are not tyrants, though they often seem to be. They just get bored. I mean, how would you like to be taken around your dad’s office or a musem full of abstract art (assuming ofcourse, that you have no specific interest in either)? You would feel bored, right? Claustrophobic too, at times. That’s just the way children feel when we take them out to places that do not cater to their interest. So I bribe my child with a mini snack to keep him in good humour while I do my little errands.

Another key factor is to feed your child well before you leave the house, so that he/she is in a relatively good frame of mind. And I do not mean, stuff your child with food. Simply make sure he/she isn’t hungry, or this could aggravate a bad mood or tantrum.

3- Short or what?
As far as possible, ensure that your outings are short. Keep it to the minimum. In my experience, anything that lasts more than two hours is tiresome. But that is entirely subjective. A more energetic parent than myself would probably last for more than just a couple of hours. You are the best judge. You know your child, yourself and the situation. So try keeping your outings to the tolerable average duration. And if it is indeed going to be longer than that, then fortify yourself ! Also try doing one thing at a time. For example, a trip to the Library could be restricted to just that, or at worst, top it up with a visit to the supermarket. Try not to juggle too many balls all at once.

4- Trauma with Tantrums
You are at the mall. You see a child kicking and screaming. Crying inconsolably! And you suddenly realise everybody is staring. Because that child is yours. Huh! What a nightmare it is for us parents. To see every other child walking/playing around quietly, while the apple of your eye brings the roof down. Here are Three Ds.

- DISTRACT – Try distracting your child with something he/she likes. He/she is probably distraught at you not buying that expensive toy. Try to distract by showing something else that is equally interesting. Some books, puzzles or other toys, may be? Or just a quick trip to the Cafe, to grab a fruit or something that will soothe your child, and yourself too.

- DEVISE – Devise alternate means to calm your child. If possible, find out what it is that he/she wants, and if it is reasonable, and if you think its a reasonable request, then indulge your child. If not, then explore other options, like promising him/her a play-date with the best friend! That almost always works for me!

- DISTANCE – He he! If nothing at all works, and your child is in the midst of a full-blown tantrum, pretend you don’t know him/her ;-) Just kidding. Distance yourselves from the crowd. Might just help calm the nerves. Atleast, it won’t cause you further embarassment!

5- Relax and Rejoice
That’s the only way to handle things and people, I guess. Relax because it cannot get worse, and rejoice because like they say ‘This too shall pass’!