Thought and Reason

What is it about F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Really! What is it about friends?! They add so much happiness to Life!

As most of my FB friends know, I met up with a friend from college, after ELEVEN years! And it was like catching up from just yesterday.  There was none of that foreignness or formality that we feel in newer friendships/relationships. We talked about this and that.. the past..eccentricities of college life, and the present and future plans (however vague or weird they might be!).

This afternoon, again, I made a long-distance call to a friend in Chennai. We have this strange relationship, where we never extend the courtesy to say ‘Hello’s or ‘Good-bye’s, but when we do talk, we gush over without inhibition. And there’s no grudge against the other for not having kept in touch!

It is tantamount to recognizing the fact, that that is a unique relationship, and is exactly the way it is… and you want neither more nor less. And that, I think is the basis for any sustainable friendship.

To be really honest, I find it extremely difficult to make friends, especially as I grow older. Because there are such few people with whom one can have that perfect wavelength. In all these years of post-college days, I can literally count my ‘newer’ friends on fingertips. Its that few!

I am not an anti-social person 😉 but I guess I am a bit of a loner, as I would rather be by myself, than gossip with an acquaintance!

Any day, I would (like the rest of you) prefer to be in the company (however short that might last) of my closest friends….

Those friends with whom I can talk endlessly. Where time runs out but conversation doesn’t. And where no Judgements are passed.

And there are the ones with whom I can spend an evening, over a cup of coffee (however badly made!), in complete silence.

To both sets of friends (and these very often merge!),  I just want to say ‘Thank you’ for adding Happiness to Life.

These days, ofcourse, I have a bunch of friends whom I’ve never met, but who read me, and always leave pleasant words, without ever judging me or my thoughts. Thank you, too, friends from Blog-samaj. I do hope I can meet you some day!

Happy Weekend, everyone!

15 replies on “What is it about F.R.I.E.N.D.S”

I was thinking about the TV show when i saw your title. It sure feels great to chat with a friend from your childhood or younger days and how much one remembers about all the small silly stuff they do is a surprise.

Hey Pallavi,
I feel exactly the same way as you….we have a special bond with school and college close friends and no matter how many years pass by when you meet them, that warmth is still there!
Good friends really add happinesst to life!

Very true. I am lucky to be able to speak to my bestest school friend almost every day.. as she lives in the UK as well. We are frinds for more that 20 years. If my hubby is around, while we are on the phone, he wonders why did we even call each other as there was nothing ‘important’ discussed..

I know what you mean!
So, totally and completely.
Friends rock!
And yes, there need not be any hellos or good byes… 🙂

I love that kind of relationship! 🙂

I guess after a certain age… specially when we are working professionals social life becomes a lil difficult…

I am in office from 10 to 7 maybe 8… its almost impossible to go out and socialise.. as it happens I have found friends in the virtual world rather…

after 2.5 years to this new town after leaving my hometown where i lived for over 15 years… its only our watchman and the general store wala that are my friends… in real life..

blog samaj is my sole adda… !! 🙂

I can totally get what you are saying here.. Believe it or not – I was about to do a similar post. I have a friend like this – we have been in touch very very sporadically – but when we do talk – it is like we were never apart – nonstop. A week or so ago, we chatted for 3 hours straight 🙂

‘Because there are such few people with whom one can have that perfect wavelength.’ – so true! With some people, however – you just hit off! and there is no looking back 🙂

‘I am not an anti-social person 😉 but I guess I am a bit of a loner, as I would rather be by myself, than gossip with an acquaintance!’ – me too.. But when it is someone I am close to – I can talk away 🙂

Oh Pallu – this post is so much similar to what I had in mind that it is almost eerie 🙂

Yup tht’s the best part about old friends – that you just pick up where you left off 🙂

And we’;v spoken..maybe on your next trip we can meet 🙂

Ah for the qualities of a friend
whose absence your heart rend
who can your broken heart mend
to whom utter nonsense like this I can send

I guess you would have heard this by Simon & Garfunkel.

@ Pum – I love the TV show ‘Friends’, therefore titled it this way 😉 Yes, reliving those ‘silly gigling’ moments is heaven indeed!

@ Sneha – Thank you for reading and Welcome Aboard 🙂 Thank God for good friends!!

@ Ipshita – Now you’ve made me all J! Wow, about the daily phone calls 🙂

@ Pixu – Absolutely! Glad to have found you, btw 🙂

@ Hitchy – Possibly! Yeah! Never thought of it from that angle. LOL at the watchman and store-wala being best friends 🙂

@ Smitha – Eerie indeed! You can still write yours, so we can mix and match the stuff 😉 Are u back from back-packing?

@ MM – Such relationships are precious indeed 🙂

@ Supp – Yay! That sounds fantastic!!!

@ PRG – LOL @ ‘utter nonsense’. So you are back to your 4-liners 😉 Thanks for posting that video. How do you embed it into your comment itself? Pliss to share the trade secret!

Pallu, Agree with lot of what you said. I am someone who make friends but I have this group of close friends with whom I share a lot and am possessive about them too. I take care of them too like my own.

So I am still in touch with almost all my dear friends. We don’t need to talk or mail them every single day. It is just not possible but when you connect it is like as always..comfortable.

I am someone who is considered anti-social sometimes only because I don’t talk to people I can’t relate to. So either I am a snob or anti-social but don’t mind it anymore. 🙂

Family is important but having really good friends is too. Enjoy!

@ Soli – How could I forget the ‘possessiveness’ bit. I too hate sharing my closest friends 🙂 Can totally identify with the ‘snob / anti-social’ bit because I am so much the same! And bang on, while family is important, friends are crucial too!

@ PRG – OK, I believe you 🙂

@ Vimmu – Y naaat! Mail me your contact details 🙂 Maybe if your wedding is finalised for Dec/Jan/Feb, I might just make it 😉

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