I never watch Star TV. Its rubbish. Totally. And we don’t get Sach Ka Saamna yet, so there’s really no point in tuning into this channel. I accidentally turned the TV on, and this programme was being aired:
I watched, appalled at the casual way in which this guy…(Shall we just call him – The Polygamist – TP) admitted to having an illicit relationship with another woman, and also having a child with her. There he is, standing in court, with both women!
This is what struck me:-
1- The polygamist – Ashok – Looked absolutely cool! He showed no trace of shame or guilt. The only emotion he displayed was distress – at the thought of having to pay some monthly maintenance amount for both families.
2- The wife – Looked resigned to her fate. She has simply watched her husband living with another woman, and even having an illegitimate child with her. She has been abused by him. Disrespected. And ignored. And there she is, standing by the side of her husband. Like good wife Hillary Clinton next to the respectable (ahem!) Mr.Clinton during the Lewinsky affair! And all she claims is for her to be provided for.
3- The mistress – Looked equally resigned too! Like they were all part of one happy family. She actually called the wife ‘Didi’! And all she wanted was her child (an 18 year adult himself!!) back.
And what was the great Verdict?
That the man shall pay a monthly maintenance charge to provide for both his families, and shall not see the mistress again.
What was Kiran Bedi thinking when she passed that sort of judgement?
-Does this man even deserve a family?
-Should he not be divorced from his wife AND separated from the mistress?
-Shouldn’t he be restricted from seeing his children any more? Its not like he has been providing for them or caring for them all through their growing years!
Post-judgement. These were the reactions:
1- The polygamist – Spoke a poorly-rehearsed line about how he made that mistake (of having a second family) without thinking of the consequences.
2- The mistress – She actually cried, because her ‘child’ would miss his ‘father’!
3- The wife – Now this lady really took the cake!! She was all smiles. And why? Because she ‘got her man back’.
So, is this the moral of the story??
Men: Have as many affairs as you want, all you need to do is, come back to your wife at the end of the day
Women: Don’t worry, your man will be back. And you can legally claim maintenance charges from him.
Is this is the message the programme conveyed?!
WHAT THE HELL WAS GOING ON THERE?????!!!
Two women fighting for one man’s affections and/or attentions? Its not like he is a handsome hunk or even a responsible dad!
This man has disrespected the santity of marriage, and has not even accorded his wife the basic respect that another human being deserves.
And the wife? After all those years of humiliation, actually is happy to be back with the traitor that is her husband! Doesn’t she have an iota of self-respect??
I don’t know! I am really appalled at all the above – the man being so brazen, the mistress being so cool, and the wife being so subservient.
But most of all, I am shocked that Ms.Kiran Bedi let this man off the hook, so very easily.
I am sure all the pativrata Bharatiya naaris were delighted at the judgement. A happy ending to a sad story!
Please let me know your thoughts.
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