The outsider (55-er)


‘Take her on our vacation?? You crazy?’, she exploded.

He remained silent.

That night. He was stretched carelessly on the mat. Near her. Sometimes talking. Sometimes laughing. Watching their favourite show.

She swallowed hard.

Realising, that mother and son shared a bond so deep, that she herself was yet to fathom, in her year-old marriage!

Advertisements

38 thoughts on “The outsider (55-er)

  1. ha ha!!!! 🙂 just so perfect!!
    My in-laws insist that The G was a complete “I want my mommy” kinda kid! And they keep repeating the story a million and fifty times!! :):) I imdtly thought of them when I read this!! Thankfully The G has grown up over the years!! 🙂

    I see your 55-er thingy is just getting better and better..

  2. Actually I have heard couple of mothers who are proud of the fact that their sons are Mamma’s boys and that they need their mom for everything. But later the same moms mock at the son and call them henpecked. 😀

    @Pallu: Have you enabled comment threading?

  3. @ Vimmu- Scared of wedding? I don’t believe that! Its like an adventure. You win some rounds and lose most others. but altogether its quite a blessed feeling! U ought to try it 🙂 And thanks a lot for the blogrolling honour…most grateful 🙂

    @ Spamwarrior- Owww…sad you didn’t like this. Or maybe you meant something else?

    @ Piper- In all honesty, my lil one is quite a Mamma’s boy! And I am so glad about it 😉 He he he! Thanks for your compliment, dear buddy! And I can’t say how glad it is to see u back!!! Hugs to you.

    @ Oorja- Mamma’s boy indeed, but being a Mamma myself, I have a vague feeling I am beginning to understand the bond now 🙂

    @ Ally- Good to see u back too! Its a fair point…her relationship with her mother. On a generic note, I guess (Indian) men are a little chauvinistic.. they do not realise that there is life beyond their immediate family circle. But I have been quite fortunate in this regard, as most of the men I’ve known are rather sane, atleast in this aspect 😉

    @ Solilo- I really need to re-work this particular post, I think. Because I didn’t quite mean to berate the guy as ‘Mamma’s boy’.I was just trying to explore various relationships without (much) prejudice.

    But yes, I do agree with you when you say that the same Moms who enjoyed the limelight over the growing years of the child, take every opportunity to tease the poor guys as Joru Ka Gulaam. Its so unfair. But it must really arise from their sense of insecurity.. of needing to suddenly share their space with someone who will eventually take over that precious son’s life. Hmmm..marriage is a complicated thing!

    @ Vimmu – Hope you aren’t reading this far 😉

    @ Sol again- What a brainy idea…I didn’t think of it earlier…will check out Settings or FAQs now to do this comment threading business. Makes blogging life so much more organized!

  4. @ Vimmu- Your Switcheroo post made a lasting impression on me, you see. Therefore the Vimmu-la. Changed it back now, for your sake!

    @ Shankari- Same pinch 😉 (like we used to say when we were at school)

  5. Thanks, Indygirl.
    Like Jack Nicholson says ‘You can’t handle the truth’.
    Well, in this case, the ‘you’ is any bahu…new or old. And the sooner she realises this, the better for everybody…especially herself!

  6. Lol!
    So true in some cases!! 😀
    But, it’s difficult for a couple to adjust to one another in such cases…

    But, great 55-er though! 🙂

  7. Oh Bahu tread carefully in a relation
    especially between a mother and her son
    for it can mean a life that can threaten
    or be one that is filled with loads of fun.

    1. On that, I have to second you, Yuva! Perspectives change when one changes from a Bahu to a Mom, and then into a Saas herself.

      But then, men are very conveniently confused 😉 and all do is simply be politically correct! Why is supporting the mom classified as being ‘Mamma’s boy’ and supporting the wife branded as ‘Henpecked’?

      Ever wondered why there is hardly any conflict between a father-in-law and son-in-law? Its because the FILs back off once their little girl is married. They maintain a respectable distance. So there is no need for the girl to take sides. And even if there is, she mostly supports the husband (and she is expected to!) and nobody calls her ‘Hubby ki gulaam’.

      Indian customs are sometimes queer and one-sided, don’t you think?

  8. Nice effort Pallo 🙂 I’m better off not writing anything now..else I’d end up writing infinite paragraphs. Sigh.

  9. Good one, as usual, Pal. Many moms in India are indeed proud that their sons are mamma’s boys. Being mom to a boy, I can say with conviction, I would want my son to be an individual and to be able to make choices for himself.

    1. Yay! Atta girl! Now I’m going to preserve this comment of yours and send it to your DIL two decades from now 😉

  10. Completely agree with Mystic Margarita. I’m going to be very careful and will make sure I have more interests in my life at that point of time, than meddle in my son’s life.

    1. Cool Urmi. Am gonna send this to Samarth too after say twenty years. Btw, what do you think will happen 20 years from now? We would all be ‘old hags’?!! My God, what a scary thought.

  11. Good one Pal. Something that has puzzled me all along. Why are Indians so ok with Mamma’s boys but not with so-called Henpecked Husbands?? I mean what the hell is the difference?? Beats me. In the end, aren’t both the same??!! But in India it is alright to be a Mamma’s boy!! *snigger snigger snigger* I HATE Mamma’s boys. Period.

    1. Beats me too, Shail! I think its got a lot to do with the Ladki being ‘Paraya Dhan’. Its all crap, I agree, but this is probably what lays the foundation for MILs getting to control the househild until she can’t physically cope! And for DILs to have to learn to adjust into their new life. ‘Going nuclear’ is again a vice, as is being hen-pecked. The only virtue is for a Man to continue being the tame Mamma’s boy that he was. That’s our Indian outlook, isn’t it?!!

    1. Ouchie! I think every DIL feels the same way. So long as DIL and MIL respect each other’s space, I think life is still quite a joyous occasion 🙂

  12. And yes, i think the bottom line is that as people move through life and experiences, perspectives change….so probably it’s best to chuck stereotypes, be open to change and enjoy the whole journey from being a bahu to being a saas and beyond 🙂

    1. Thanks a lot, Ganga. And yes, it is best to keep evolving into better persons. But most people just end up whining about all that isn’t there, instead of appreciating all that is! I do hope we make better Saas-s.

So, what do you think?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s